I have adopted “covid” as my way of referring to this invisible enemy we are fighting. Words influence our thinking heavily and our thinking affects our moods and behaviors. Two words in that first sentence speak to the fatigue, the frustration, and all of what is overwhelming us after nearly two seasons of this battle.
Tammy Boyle, a colleague, put it this way prompting me to write this post:
“I don’t know any of us thinks we should be able to handle it all. For moms, I can’t imagine the toll it must be taking on you. The stress of the pandemic is equal to being in a war zone. You don’t feel safe, you don’t know what’s coming and still, you have to manage the needs and feelings of others while trying to survive, yourself. You’re going to be half as productive, twice as fragile emotionally, and more prone to illness and exhaustion – not just fatigued. Scale back your expectations. This is the worst time to try to be a perfectionist. Reduce the demands, take frequent days off and don’t fill those days with to do chores. Just rest. I’ve slowed way down and when I can’t keep up, I cut myself some slack.”
This was in response to a mom posting that she couldn’t understand why she couldn’t keep up with her professional reading and other things she normally did easily (even with toddler twin boys!)
If you are exhausted but are confused because you are not going out as much, or you don’t have the motivation to do the things you normally enjoy, you are not alone. We are all in this boat together. We must learn to be kinder to ourselves. We must protect ourselves as much as we can.
Turn off the news as much as possible. Stay out of the many debates if they are overwhelming to you. Check your “bandwidth”. Do you have enough of it to do more than what you’re doing? If not, then allow yourself to let some things go. Prioritize and give yourself slack on the things that don’t matter.
There’s a poem that meant a great deal to me when I was a new mom:
“Calm down cobwebs, dust go to sleep. I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.”
It allowed me to better enjoy my time with my boys when they were very little. And it stuck. Now we have bigger things to tell to calm down and go to sleep, and let’s face it, dust and cobwebs are never going to have a vaccine to eradicate them.
If you are having trouble letting these things go, if you need someone to listen just to you and provide you with encouragement, we want to help you get through this time. Call 940-300-2312 or click here to request an appointment today.